Mom Told Me Not to Change Even if I Lose Again Lyrics
Never Say This To A Man Unless You Want To Lose Him
By Carol Allen
Let me tell you lot a sad, but all-too common, story. A client of mine had met a neat new guy. He'd been treating her really well – going out of his way to aid her with a big business concern drama with a human being from her past, and fifty-fifty helping her with her taxes.
(Can you say SAINT?)
Things were going and so well, in fact, that he'd even included her in a dinner political party with his three best friends and his female parent – all inside vii weeks!
So, imagine my surprise when she told me they broke upward but 3 days afterward.
What happened? Why did it of a sudden get so wrong? Obviously, she'd become insecure. She really liked this guy. (Who wouldn't?)
Turns out they weren't getting any lonely time together while his mother was in town, and as soon as she left, he went out with the guys instead of her. And it REALLY injure her feelings.
And then, when he chosen her the next day to say hello and told her about his night out with his friends, she got upset.
And she marched straight over to his firm and said THE ONE Thing you must NEVER say to a man unless you lot want him to be out of your life FOREVER…
"You lot run across, when the woman is the leader, she'southward the one fighting for the human relationship. She's the one taking the ball down the field – not the man!"
She said, "I remember maybe we should interruption up."
Say What Y'all Mean
Now, my client didn't want to intermission upward with this guy; she was trying to get a reaction out of him.
She wanted him to look securely into her eyes, have her in his arms, and say, "Darling, whatever do you hateful? Don't you know that I love you?!"
But she got a very unlike reaction.
He asked, "Why?" She went on to explicate that he should've spent time with her instead of going out with "the guys."
He took a beat, assessed the situation, and said, "I think you're right. We should break up."
And that was it. No more help with taxes. No more alone time.
Who'south In Accuse?
I looked at their charts and checked out their compatibility using a fifteen-step technique from India that has been used to arrange marriages for generations. And I instantly saw there were a couple of things going on.
They had cracking connections, which is why things had been going so well. There was just one problem…
My client was THE LEADER in the relationship.
This is one of the most important things in this technique! I was actually taught that it's considered a "deal breaker" – and then painful for a adult female that it volition brand her a crazy banshee over time.
Hither's why – when the woman is the leader in a human relationship, she's always ready for the adjacent matter with a man before he is.
Over time, she starts to feel similar the man simply isn't at that place for her, or thinking of her, and that she's more invested in the human relationship than he is.
It makes her feel unloved. And then it makes her human activity out…
Follow The Leader
Now, ironically, when the woman is the leader, she must NEVER say to the human, "I think maybe we should break upward."
Why? Considering what he'll hear is:
– "I'm not happy.
– You're non making me happy.
– What would brand me happy is if nosotros broke upwardly."
And, wanting to brand her happy, he'll shrug his shoulders and say, "Okay."
You see, when the woman is the leader, she's the one fighting for the human relationship. She's the one taking the brawl down the field – non the homo! He follows HER Pb. He doesn't directly the relationship.
So, when she gives the cue that they should break upwards, he tin can't contend. And if he does initially, he won't for long.
Now, I've seen couples exist happy with this "role-reversal" situation if they have other extra special connections betwixt them, and if they know what'due south going on…
And so, find out if y'all're the leader with your man, and how to handle information technology so y'all don't needlessly lose him over it. It'south all in my Right Man Report that yous can exist reading in mere minutes by going here: Right Man Report free trial. Not only that, you'll learn whether your human relationship is really meant to go the distance and if you two take what information technology takes to overcome life'southward challenges.
But do yourself a favor – don't ever let your insecurity make you say those dreaded words: "I think possibly we should suspension up…" unless yous mean information technology! You may be blowing it with the correct man for you.
(But, of form, if you Want to interruption up, that's another story.)
To assist you make up one's mind if you should be patient and await for a man to come around, or get him out of your life (because he's taking upwards your precious time and centre, and won't be worth it) find out here:
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This report will tell you EVERYTHING yous could want to know, outlining not just who has "the faster process" (so you can sit down on your easily and bite your tongue for a while if it's you!) but also:
>> If you share the same sensibility
>> If you're on the same wavelength – wanting the aforementioned things at the same fourth dimension
>> If you share a foundation of friendship – or non >> If he tin give enough to you to make you secure
>> If you accept enough chemical science to go the distance
Or if, no matter how "perfectly" you behave and how patient you are, you'll only have:
>> Constant obstacles that make it the way (like other women, financial dramas, even health problems)
>> Misfortunes that seem to endlessly ascend out of the blueish and rip you apart
>> An inability to "keep the peace" and stay continued, even though y'all may actually love each other
>> Difficulty hearing each other's point of view, or agreement each other
These things are Non your imagination, and they're NOT your mistake… so find out what's REALLY going on here:
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Source: https://soulmatestars.com/relationships/never-say-this-to-a-man
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